Created by a parent of an autistic teen girl.

Quiet Milestones started at a kitchen table, with a pile of puberty books that didn't work for our daughter.

They were full of jokes, vague phrases and "you'll understand when it happens." Our daughter needed the opposite: exact words, the steps in order, and time to practice before anything changed. So we started writing our own stories and checklists, testing them at home, and rewriting whatever confused her.

Our daughter understands instructions well, but she will never curl up in her room with a book. Her phone is another story. So the kit had to work on paper and on a screen: cards she can save as photos, stories she can read alone.

Her body started changing early, around nine. We later learned we weren't alone: a 2020 study led by researchers at Vanderbilt University found that autistic girls tend to start puberty earlier, and reach their first period about nine months sooner on average. Her weight was part of the reason, and her doctors recommended injections to pause puberty for a while and delay her first period. It gave us something we badly needed: time. Time for her to grow up a little, and time for us to prepare her, one clear step at a time. That was the right call for her, not a rule for every girl. If changes start early for your daughter, talk to her pediatrician.

Those pages became the Puberty Kit. We're sharing them so other families don't have to start from zero. We know autism looks very different from one girl to the next, so we made it for the girls we know best: girls with low support needs, who talk, understand instructions and follow routines.

What we believe

• Clear is kind. Literal language isn't childish. It's respectful.
• Preparation lowers anxiety. Knowing what will happen, and what to do, makes new things less scary.
• Autistic kids don't need fixing. Our goal is understanding and safety, not "acting normal."
• Parents need support too. Every kit includes a guide for you, not only materials for your child.

What we are not

We are parents, not doctors or therapists. Our resources are educational and organizational tools. They don't replace advice from your child's doctor, therapist or school team.

Get in touch

Questions, ideas for future kits, or something that didn't work for your child? We read every message. Write to hello@quietmilestones.com or use the contact form.